Wildflower
"Because love is not a swipe.
It's a conversation."
The Application
We start with a comprehensive questionnaire that gives me a full view of who you are—not just your preferences, but your values, your story, and what you're truly seeking in connection. This is free, because getting to know you shouldn't cost anything.
The application asks deep questions about your lifestyle, your non-negotiables, your relationship history, and what authentic partnership looks like to you. I want to understand not just who you think you should be with, but who you actually are.
Once you submit your application, I review it carefully and add you to my active pool. No algorithms, no automation—just human intuition and years of understanding what makes people truly compatible.
Blind Dates
Once you're in my system, I carefully review your profile and start looking at potential matches. This involves me putting your profile alongside a potential match and ensuring you share similar lifestyles, values, and compatibility markers.
A blind date is currently $7. You will prepurchase your dates: 1, 3 or 6 at $7 each.
How It Works
During warmer months, I'll send you to Oblique Coffee Roasters on SE 30th and Stark, next to Laurelhurst Park. You meet out front, grab drinks inside, then head to the park for a walkabout or sit.
During rainy months, it's just a sitting date at the coffee shop. You pay for your own drink. No assumption of roles, no obligations.
The date is a firm 30-45 minute commitment. Guaranteed 30 minutes so it's worth showing up, with a natural endpoint if chemistry isn't there.
No exchanging phone numbers or changing the date format. This is my only rule—break it and your subscription will be cancelled.
After the date, I will inquire how it went. If you both want to see each other again, I will set you up on a dinner or lunch date. Once you arrive at that established date, it's no longer in my hands. You're free to exchange phone numbers, stay the whole night, or anything else.
If I invite you to a date and you don't respond, I'll send another invite 2 days later. If I don't hear from you in 4 days, your account will be deactivated and you will lose your date credit.
The Ethics of Encounter
Presence
When you say yes, you are making a promise to show up—not just physically, but emotionally. Be there.
Containment
The first meeting has boundaries for a reason. Respect them. Rushing intimacy is the enemy of lasting connection.
Humanity
The person across from you is not a possibility to evaluate, but a human being to encounter. Bring your curiosity, not your checklist.
The What-Ifs
What if one person enjoyed their time, but the other didn't?
That's ok! This is why I've made the project the way it is. You didn't have to go through the tiring rigamarole of chatting for hours prior, to then show up for a date that's generally longer than you want it to be. I am saving you time by filtering everyone and ensuring your first meet never goes beyond 45 minutes.
What if someone asks for my phone number?
Tell me! I need to know this in order to remove them from the project. It is unacceptable to break my rules—it makes the project crumble and shoots up a big red flag. Do you want to date someone who can't follow such a simple rule? The blind date is there to establish chemistry, and if both of you were into it, you'd tell me and exchange numbers on the second date.
What if I found someone and want to pause my account?
Tell me. I will email you to set a blind date and if I don't get a response after 2 days, I will email you again. If I don't receive a reply, I will cancel the date with the other person and you will be charged for the date. I will pause your account until you get back to me again.
The Crisis of Modern Love
We live in the most connected yet loneliest time in human history. We have confused access with intimacy, choice with connection. The paradox of choice has left us paralyzed.
This is the antidote.Fewer options, deeper encounters. Quality over quantity. Human intuition over algorithmic prediction. The courage to be vulnerable instead of strategic.
"Love is not a commodity to be optimized.
It is a mystery to be lived."
How to Join
Fill out the complimentary application.
Wait for me to review your profile and find you a match.
When I schedule your date, invest the $10 commitment fee.
Show up, spend 45 minutes together, and see what blooms.
Currently Available in Portland
All encounters take place locally, unless two people happen to live elsewhere but near each other.
Are you ready to be seen?
Not as a profile or a persona, but as the complex, contradictory, magnificent human being you are. This is where love begins.